A common myth leveled at survivors of rape and abuse is that we need to “forgive” our rapists in order to begin to heal ourselves. Rape is always made about how the victim responds to it. How we BUILD CHARACTER from trauma. What we LEARN.
Fuck all that.
It is an act of self-respect and preservation to not forgive. What happens when a woman decides to forgive her rapist? She “heals” and is now able to “love” again.
What does it mean to heal and love again? To be willing to put ourselves into situations with men where we are going to be fucked. All this methodology is about making it so that women return to relationships with men. It is a fundamental part of compulsory heterosexuality. We take what we have learned about the nature of men, what they have done to our bodies and we subvert it. We…
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